"All we need is love." Is that a myth?
Since love does seem to be able to overcome anything and
everything, at least on television and at the movies, this
seems like a reality. However, truth is, making relationships
work takes skill and hard work, regardless of the "love"
factor. This is a myth here.
Just like in fairy tales, once true love is found, people
live happily ever after. Truth or myth? Granted couples can
look into each other's eyes and have those warm fuzzy
feelings. However, truth is, all couples will have their ups
and downs.
"Happily ever after" seems to imply a perfect, problem-less
relationship when in reality, those don't exist.
It has to be "love at first sight" in order to work
long-term. Myth or truth? While this can be true for
some, it certainly doesn't have to be for all couples
in long-term relationships. Many people grow together over time.
Since practically anyone can learn the nuts and bolts of
relationship building, focusing on some basic techniques that
can be learned is a must. The main ones, in no particular order, are:
- Read: "Read" people well
- Rapport: Develop rapport with others well
- Finesse: Have some finesse; i.e. handle conversations and activities in a cordial manner
- Conflict Resolution: Resolve negative issues and conflicts without too much friction
- Support Co-Op: Gain the support and cooperation in working towards a common goal
- Kissing Secrets: Learn how to *really* kiss
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